lets talk about sex.

On VH1 today they aired a documentary called "New Virginity" which discussed sex in todays society and promoting abstinence until marriage. I have already begun to become interested in the "true love waits" movement, simply because I don't like how sex is being devalued, but after watching this documentary and having an in depth conversation with my friend, I am further more willing to explore this.

I don't know if most of you remember but Sex is supposed to be sacred; its having two bodies come together. What can be more sacred and intimate than that. It's as if we lost that view and just use sex to keep our mates satisfied, or to hurry and get it over with. Celebrities like Jessica Simpson, Miley Cyrus, the Jonas Brothers and Jordin Sparks are a few names to have pledged their vow to save sex for marriage, and I can say that I am truly inspired.

DID YOU KNOW that the average length of time one waits before sex is TWO MONTHS. REALLLY! TWO MONTHS!!. how do we even fully know someone in TWO MONTHS? and then we invite them inside of us;(pardon the graphic statement). I strongly feel as though Sex is being used as a dependent, and is redundant to a drug. Think about it; Like a drug, sex provides temporary satisfaction. you can be sad, mad, aggravated, and the moment you have "good sex" that glow comes back. Alcohol and drugs provides that same satisfaction for some

...What do we honestly benefit from moving into sex in a relationship. Is it even considered the "next level?" ...

So quick breakdown; if we talk with someone for two months, then have sex, ..where does the rest of the relationship go? What follows the sex?....

I've watched so many friends start relationships with sex and end in nothing. As girls we are ALL about pleasing our mate; and face it, sex is more important to a man than female. It's as if we're just giving it up to keep it up; keep the relationship moving, when in fact...sex does NOT make the bond deeper. yes! it feels good, and on a good night it can make you strangely feel beyond connected to that person. BUT if a man + a woman + sex = relationship than we are DOOMED.

In todays society we are stripping away so much thats preventing us from prospering in having BEAUTIFUL relationships. When do we take time to learn that persons favorite color? favorite food? Favorite activity?....interests! ., those are the little things that uncover who that person is. Seriously maybe those are questions you're DIVORCED parents can't even answer about their EXES. With the high rate of divorce, and the rapid speed of sex, no wonder marriages aren't lasting. WE DON'T EVEN KNOW EACH OTHER. When you take the time to get to know someone's interests, dislikes, and practicing overall communication the little surprises that show up in marriages, should no longer be surprises. You should know the ins and outs of that person. ...but going back to this sex thing, its so rushed that we neglect EVERYTHING ELSE more IMPORTANT that matter.

Some people even base suitable marriage on whether the man or woman is good in bed.OH YEAAA!! Because at the end of the day, you don't want to be tied down to someone who is simply amazing, but has yet to prove to be amazing in bed yet, right?... WRONG!
In a society where most people are of Christian faith, most relationships don't even surpass a YEAR without sex, and has now trickled down to TWO MONTHS. I can't judge due to my own personal experiences, but the fact that I am becoming more aware of the value of sex, it's making me want to aware others! ... just something to think about.

So to you dear blog readers, I begin my commitment to value myself and join the "true love awaits" movement.